September 30, 2018 – By Bill Hardekopf

Money secrets, otherwise known as financial infidelity, is a proven deal breaker for relationships. Last year, one survey found that 31% of couples considered financial infidelity worse than physical infidelity. Policegenius found 20% of people in a relationship will spend $500 without telling their partner, and 12-13% have a secret checking account, savings account, and/or credit card account.
On the flip side, 19% of respondents said they would not spend any money at all without telling their partner. An additional 37% said their untold spending caps at $100; any amount above that warrants a discussion.
While 70% of participants knew their partner’s income, only half knew their monthly spending habits or credit score. As for managing the household finances, 43% said they manage money together, while the remainder either manage it separately or have one person taking control of the funds.
The vast majority of couples (70%) said money does not influence their relationship, but money problems are the second leading cause of divorce in America. At a minimum, couples should be open about large purchases they plan to make, especially if it involves a debt. Research from American Consumer Credit Counseling found 55% of women and 37% of men would leave their partner if they discovered a large sum of hidden debt.